Reforming the Feminine ContentHow Much Should I Do to Attract a Guy?
#5: ”How much should I do to attract a guy? How far is too far?”
You will often be tempted to manipulate circumstances in your search for a spouse. Remember, God is sovereign and you can trust Him with your future. God is not going to let His best for your life slip through His fingers. Be open and available without being manipulative. Knowing how far is too far really depends on an active relationship with God. The temptation will be to seek out community groups or ministry activities solely for the available men involved in the same. If you are in question about an action or activity, seek God’s face in prayer and in the Word. From there, listen to your conscience. If you’re in doubt, then don’t. Rest, wait, and trust God with the details.
Psalm 20:7 Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we trust in the name of the LORD our God.
Proverbs 19:21 Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.
Romans 14:23 But the man who has doubts is condemned if he eats, because his eating is not from faith; and everything that does not come from faith is sin.
Psalm 40:4 Blessed is the man who makes the LORD his trust, who does not look to the proud, to those who turn aside to false gods.
Administrator’s note: this is “common question/concern #5″ that Deacon Wendy Alsup answers for ladies who are struggling with their singleness. See the “Singleness” category for her article and other questions answered.
Thank you for these words. Lately I have been wondering about and struggling a little with this very thing. I especially liked what you said: “If you’re in doubt, then don’t. Rest, wait, and trust God with the details.” Amen.
Wendy, thank you for continually pointing to Christ. I look forward to Saturday.
Wendy, I have an entire post’s worth of comments and questions about this one. I think this hits a big vein with a lot of us and I wonder if it would be a good place for a more extensive teaching or further discussion.
Thanks for writing this.
Bring it on. Let’s talk this one out.
Here are a couple initial follow up thoughts.
1) The point is NOT to judge others–”Oh, she’s so manipulative.” The point is to discern our own motives. Charity with others; strictness with ourselves.
2) Two women could do the exact same action with one being manipulative out of distrust of God and one being obedient in response to God.
3) You’ll have a hard time arguing from Scripture that waiting, resting, and/or stepping back is ever a bad idea.