Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby

Everybody knows that they’re guilty
Everybody knows that they’ve lied
Everybody knows that they’re guilty
Resting on their conscience eating their inside
It’s freedom, said it’s freedom time now
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Our present condition needs serious recognition
Where there’s no repentence there can be no remission
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His word has nailed everything to the tree
severing all of me from all that I used to be

- Lauryn Hill, “Freedom Time”

While the nation is preparing for a celebration of its political freedom, we here at the blog are ushering in our own revolution - a sexual one that looks nothing like our mothers’ revolution in the 60’s.

This week, on the Reforming the Feminine blog, we will be discussing sexual sin. Why? Because most if not all of us have sexual sin to deal with. While historically a lot of that has been sin against us, as a nice little result of our mothers’ sexual revolution we are now also dealing with all those issues that used to be typically defined as “men’s issues” - ie, addiction to pornography, masturbation and the like. We are dealing with everything from date rape or an uncle’s inappropriate ‘hugs’ to our own addictions to sexually graphic novels and promiscuity.

And bad sex is killing us. It’s eating our hearts up. It’s filling our minds with thoughts that won’t shut up. It’s diseasing our bodies. It’s telling us we are filthy and disgusting underneath it all. That there is no hope, and we better not tell anyone. 

I’m mad as hell right now. I thought I would be bemusedly detached from this whole topic, but just this last week, a woman very dear to me burst into raging tears of shame as she confessed her sexual sin to me, for the first time ever to another human being. It enraged me that she was so entrapped and so alone and so full of shame. She is a beautiful woman and I know that Jesus loves her and that she is not filthy and disgusting; yet she feels so trapped and out of control. I want to lunge at Satan’s jugular for all the lies that he has gleefully tucked into her heart.

The weird part is that while I am angry for her, I am excited at the same time. The first step to freedom is exposure. That goes for all of us. Someone turn a light on! What is this stuff?!

On Saturday, July 14th, there will be an event called “Redeeming Female Sexuality” at Mars Hill. If you are a woman, you’re invited. This is not just for those of us who have big dramatic stories. We’re all dealing with sexual issues, so let’s stop trying to fight the darkness alone… let’s meet one another in love and compassion, to learn and confess and fight this together, with Jesus leading the way.

Due to the sensitive nature of the event, it will not be recorded, so I encourage you to make every effort to come and benefit from the testimonies and teaching available on the 14th only.

In the meantime, stay tuned to Reforming the Feminine as we discuss sexuality this week.

Please click on the link above for the event description and a link to register, or just click on the Calendar tab of this blog.